by christineinsearchofblueskies » Fri Nov 02, 2012 09:55:01 PM
This is my situation and I am wondering if anyone can offer some advice...
I was given my first credit card at 18 and managed never to be late on a payment until recently....
Everything seemed to be coming together with my life. I met a great guy that I planned to live my life with. I trusted him and our relationship, we had a partnership.
Career advancement we were sure was around the corner fell through and that is when our debt started.
We starting using my credit cards for things here and there because we were sure our income was about to increase. It didn't. So, we made a plan to pay off our debt. My fiance was offered a new position and the income would allow us to pay off our debt faster.
So, he left his current job for the new opportunity.It meant we had to relocate and that I had to leave my job and find new employment, but the offer wasn't something he could pass up.
Many things were promised, but because things were not handled properly.
Not very long after we moved, sold and donated most of our things and put the rest of our belongings in storage he was let go from the new job without notice. I had not found employment so we were left with no income for a period of time. We were then then forced to use my credit cards (solely in my name) for food, gas, cash and whatever else we may have needed in that period until they were maxed out. The small debt we had accumulated grew and the agreement was that he would make sure he paid off all the credit cards even though they were solely in my name. As long as we could work together to pay them off I was happy. I have been more than willing to accept my part of the debt.
In the end our relationship fell apart and shut me out of his life.He refuses to help pay for the credit card bills and he will not respond to any of my emails. He left me to foot the entire bill myself. It has ruined my once good credit and it has made me lose all financial security and stability. He moved back home with his family while I struggle daily with this debt.
I currently have over $3o,ooo of credit card debt
- $16,000+ CIBC Visa
- $14,000+ Canadian Tire MC
- $1,500+ TD Visa
I am in the final year of a 7 year car lease with Royal Bank. I will be finished all payments in the new year 2013.
My CIBC chequing account has a hold on it (lean) for the CIBC Visa in the amount of $16,000+.
So, now I don't have a bank account and I need to know if I can go get another one at another bank? I really don't want to go in without having a heads up and be more embarrassed than I already am if they refuse me. I have been trying to maintain on my own, but the minimums are just too high and I can't manage on my own. I can barely pay my rent each month and put gas in my car and I am beyond stressed out!
I started a small cleaning business to try to make extra money. It is a business account at CIBC. Can the bank put a hold on my business account too?
I need a way to pay rent and bills. I need a bank account I can use and trust the little money I have to survive isn't taken.
Please help!
Thanks for reading :)