Maybe someone should slap you. Or toss you into that manure pile you keep shovelling. By the way, did you know that 40% of nobel prizes in science have been won by Jewish people? And I bet a lot more collectors' brains would fit on a silver platter than angels on the head of a pin.
Bottom Line: It all depends on who owns the loans and what, if anything, they can do to you which actually determines who's got what power.
Another collector lie: The only difference "how you approach the collector" will make is that there the more human you treat the collector, the more inhuman he will be to you.
Every meeting with a collection agent is in essence a confrontation of power. Not to see this is myopic. Hence the collection industry's motto: "tenderize by pulverizing" [pschologically]. What collectors actually mean by this is a form of telephone "[[edited: bad language]] baffles brains" terrorism.
But it always boils down to knowing what, if anything, the creditor can do to you that determines who's in the driver's seat.
More specifically, with respect to student loans, it's necessary to determine if it has federal and provincial components and what banks or other parties are involved. Then find out the dates of last payments of each and any written acknowledgments provided (whether or not they contained an agreeement to pay). After that, investigate what the applicable provincial and federal laws and limitation periods are governing them. Laws are always changing and the periods applicable to the loan when it was taken out get grandfathered.
In this case, if it's an Ontario loan that wasn't ALREADY stats barred under the 6 year rule prior to Jan, 1, 2004 then there is NO limitation period. In contrast, federal portions of student loans have a 6 year SOL period.
If it's not stats barred, then look into what enforcement methods the government is using to collect on loans similar to the one you have. There's lots of blogs available (like the Canada Student Debt Forum) letting you know if the governmment is likely to do more than hold up your income tax and GST returns.
Two important things to remember
1) Student loan limitation periods can be REVIVED, and not just RENEWED by providing a written acknowledgment of them even if they only contain a refusal to pay. Collection agents are always trying to trick people into renewing or reviving SOL periods by sending them those stupid financial forms to fill out or asking for just one little "itty bitty" payment. Keep your communication to the telephone.
****To illustrate: Here's a post on a blog made today by "tk416" who owed over $6000 on the FEDERAL portion of a student loan from 1993 and 1994. He revived the debt by making a $100 payment in Jan. of 2003. Next month (Jan., 2009), the 6 year limitation period would have been up again - and surprise, he gets slapped with a Small Claims Court lawsuit just before the SOL expires. Even though he wasn't watching the collectors, they were watching him. The other bloggers correctly chew him out for shirking his duty but are unable to answer his question. In contrast, many other destitute defaulters exist who just can't pay. Anyhow, my point is amply demonstrated.
http://www.redflagdeals.com/forums/showthread.php?s=16f113ef040dc7ce0da35804e632e0ef&t=673684
2) BE MENTALLY PREPARED: Any collection agent you will encounter will lie through his teeth, threaten, sympathize or antagonize, be conciliatory or abusive, complimentary or insulting, nice as pie or nasty as hell, friendly or hostile, promise you anything or everything, say anything you want to hear or everything no one should hear...... ad nauseum, ad absurdam, ad infinitum - just so long as you make ONE damn payment.
If the collector has been working loans for several years and wants to play by his own rules, tell him to go play with himself. Bank settlement criteria only means anything to the extent it can be and actually is enforced.
I'm not suggesting one sherk moral obligations; nevertheless, one should not be deceived or intimidated by lies and phoney threats.
Ray