I did speak to lawyers and paralegals. They agree that although TD is totally wrong on this, and has screwed up on more than one occasion - I would never be able to fight their team of lawyers.
Like I said - I'm burnt out from this - been working 3 jobs and raising 3 kids in the process, negotiating debt settlement, recently separated - I've got no fight left - however I will get some sort of satisfaction by telling my story. I want people to know how heavy handed and ruthless the TD Bank is, not to mention how clueless and imcompetent their staff is.
I want to make sure that people are aware that the banks are not held accountable for their mistakes by the Ombudsman or the government and they know it. They simply don't care what the cost is to the client. However I'm sure if we were at fault - the banks would hold us accountable and then some.
thanks for your advice